Today I want to talk about why you need to overcome adversity. Why you need to go through hardship. Why you need to be challenged by obstacles.

Adversity builds you up into a person that is strong, resilient, and most of all very certain of himself.

But most people want to take the easy way out.

“Oh, I don’t want rejections.”

“I just want all women to like me.”

“I want to get this special girl.”

“I want to buy this program that promises a quick fix.”

“I want to take this boot camp that just makes everything so much easier.”

“I want to just be spoon fed all the knowledge so I can then magically get this one girl I really like.”

“I want a lot of girls to flock to me.”

Well, okay, let’s just say you find a genie that magically grants your wishes. All of a sudden you have girls that are hanging out with you! All of a sudden you’re surrounded by cute or hot girls.

Let’s even say that somehow the genie makes it so you have a girlfriend and she’s exactly what you want.

You think that is ideal, right?

A few months ago, I was in JFK airport in New York when I decided to approach this really beautiful girl.

I hate to use ratings (aside from clickbait titles ; ) because I feel ratings kind of mess you up when you start using them (it’s a validation seeking slippery slope). But just to help you understand her beauty – she was movie star hot. She could have easily been on the cover of Maxim magazine. A really attractive girl.

She was with her mother and her little brother. And she was saying goodbye to her best friend who was going to Istanbul.

I saw her as I was waiting in line to check-in my bags.  Her small group was waiting in line at the other check-in nearby. I’d say I was about 10 feet away from them.

She was dressed in tight jeans and a short tight shirt that was showing a bit of her sexy flat stomach. She had perfect proportions. A Coke bottle shape. Just ridiculous!

The hot babe and her friend were hugging. It looked like her friend and the friend’s mother were leaving and going to Istanbul for a while.  They had several huge pieces of luggage.

At first, I hesitated because I didn’t want to go in and interrupt their emotionally charged hug. I wanted to be somewhat calibrated.

Another reason I hesitated is that sometimes these really hot girls still intimidate me. Even though I think I’ve come such a long way and I don’t care what happens most of the time, sometimes these really hot ones affect me. Some of them send me straight into my head.

I believe the reason is because I have not approached and slept with enough of them. They are rarer. This was the type of girl that if she walked through a restaurant, everybody would turn their heads to follow her. At least every guy with a working penis.

As soon as they finished hugging, I went in.

Today I want to talk to you about rejection.

Now, this is a very important subject because a lot of guys avoid approaching women because they fear rejection. Most are paralyzed by it and it’s the main reason they don’t take any action.

I want to let you know that rejection is perfectly normal.

No matter how good your game gets, no matter what you learn, there’s nothing absolutely nothing that will help you avoid rejection! And I say this having been in the seduction community for over 18 years.

Even a guy with very good game, will still get rejected.

A lot of people don’t know this because the seduction gurus lie about it and say you can use “secret” techniques in order to avoid it. Their techniques actually lead you to even more rejection because when you use those techniques you become outcome dependent.

So what’s the REAL secret?

When learning the rules of the dating game, you’ll be tempted to search for dating tips that focus on specific approaches, openers, routines, stories, or tactics. While these things can work to spark attraction, they won’t really help you transform into a man that will naturally attract women. I know this from personal experience.

Instead of wasting time on the superficial stuff, I recommend that you focus more on yourself and I encourage you to make a mental shift from relying on scripts or routines to incorporating more of your personality into your seductions. To help you with this transition, I have compiled a list of the things I believe will be most beneficial to you when you are learning to pick up girls.

I wrote this article a few years ago to inspire a few of my single friends to go out and meet women. I believe it can benefit you if you’re still learning how to approach women. This was mainly written for guys who are trying to meet women in bars, clubs, and lounges so please keep that in mind while you’re reading.

If you are new to the approaching women thing, you’re probably wondering what the best approach is. Should you go direct or indirect? Should you come in fast or slow? Should you use something rehearsed or be spontaneous?

Well to tell you the truth, there is no ONE correct way. But if you want to increase your chances of success…go in with masculine presence and power!

Go in STRONG!

Most of the time, I approach fast and strong. There is no, “Let me get the angle right” or “Let me think of the perfect thing to say” or “Let me time this just right”

Nope!

None of that!

I go in hard and strong. Like a F*%!ng Japanese kamikaze ready to die in the blaze of glory. No worries…no excuses…no remorse!

What’s the worst that can happen?

Rejection?!?